You've seen the phrase, you know what it means. Every week someone previously beloved is declared to be no longer worthy of our affection. Or every other day on rare slow weeks when Trump has not said/done anything especially idiotic to occupy our outrage (or defense mechanisms for anyone reading this who happens to be Team MAGA, but chances are that I've sufficiently alienated Trump fans with previous posts). On Twitter I typically need to scroll through a score of uninformative tweets until finally finding one that reveals what it is that a celebrity is being cancelled for. Not that these cancellations are unanimous of course. Sprinkled in with the condemnations are usually statements in defense of the famous person who has been put on cyber trial for some crime du jour. Depending on the seriousness of the matter at hand, being cancelled by the citizens of social media can have major real life repercussions. Jobs and/or endorsements are lost. Celebrities are demoted from B list to D list. Highly anticipated movie or album releases end up as flops. All because someone who was given the wonderful opportunity to say nothing at all on a subject and remain revered, instead chose to open their mouths and insert feet.
Tuesday, July 7, 2020
CANCEL CULTURE
You've seen the phrase, you know what it means. Every week someone previously beloved is declared to be no longer worthy of our affection. Or every other day on rare slow weeks when Trump has not said/done anything especially idiotic to occupy our outrage (or defense mechanisms for anyone reading this who happens to be Team MAGA, but chances are that I've sufficiently alienated Trump fans with previous posts). On Twitter I typically need to scroll through a score of uninformative tweets until finally finding one that reveals what it is that a celebrity is being cancelled for. Not that these cancellations are unanimous of course. Sprinkled in with the condemnations are usually statements in defense of the famous person who has been put on cyber trial for some crime du jour. Depending on the seriousness of the matter at hand, being cancelled by the citizens of social media can have major real life repercussions. Jobs and/or endorsements are lost. Celebrities are demoted from B list to D list. Highly anticipated movie or album releases end up as flops. All because someone who was given the wonderful opportunity to say nothing at all on a subject and remain revered, instead chose to open their mouths and insert feet.
Monday, March 4, 2019
Leaving Neverland
For years I have been an enormous Michael Jackson fan. Not the fanatical variety that dressed up like him and tried to emulate his every move, but I've been in awe of his musical talents from nearly as far back as I can remember. I've been around the block long enough to have watched him perform with his big brothers, ironically (in retrospect) seeming so much older than his years. At my first job as a summer camp counselor for 7, 8 and 9 year old kids at my church, the kids put on a talent show at the end. The girls performed Stop! In the Name of Love and the boys, led by this little guy who was a fantastic dancer, performed Dancing Machine. I remember hearing songs from Off the Wall the first time around and knowing immediately that there was a new sheriff in town. I expected him to become a big movie star after The Wiz but it turned out to be a one shot deal. Along with everyone else I recognized while watching Motown 25 that he was ready to explode to the next level. I remember anticipating the hyped debuts of videos such as Thriller and Remember the Time that actually turned out even cooler than we imagined they would be. In college I lied to a girl or two I was trying to impress, claiming to be one of the background dancers in Michael Jackson's video for Bad. I named one of my short stories after an MJ song (You've been hit by, you've been struck by...). If not quite a stan, I was definitely a Michael Jackson all caps FAN.
As Jackson got older he definitely got weirder. Stories about him grew increasingly disturbing. The odd changes to his appearance actually turned out to be useful distractions from odder, not particularly low whispers about his personal life. I remember feeling relieved when he married Lisa Marie Pressley. Maybe, in spite of some eccentricities, he was basically a normal guy after all. People try to take advantage of absurdly wealthy celebrities by making up salacious stories and suing them as a get rich quick scheme all the time. Michael Jackson was quirky because of an abnormal childhood, but nothing more sinister than that. I tried to believe this and was largely successful at convincing myself.
I was rocked when he died as evidenced when I wrote One Glove-One Love: Michael Jackson tribute and Michael Jackson Memorial Service. I knew there would never be another like him. Although I didn't consider him to be a music genius on the level of Miles Davis or Prince, Michael was certainly the ultimate entertainer. To make a proper comparison, rather than choosing another singer it probably makes more sense to compare him to Harry Houdini or Ringling Brothers and Barnum & Bailey Circus. Game changers!
Last night I watched the documentary Leaving Neverland. I've officially seen and heard enough. I can no longer see Michael Jackson as innocent until proven guilty. Now it's the other way around. At least I still have Janet...and Tito.
Get your Michael Jackson binge listening on while you still have time...— Travon Free (@Travon) March 4, 2019
Even the Church of Dr. King can't handle it!#LeavingNeverland https://t.co/BgLplBIoLG— Daniel Raza (@S_DannyRaza) March 4, 2019
This Leaving Neverland documentary is sickening. Primarily wtf is the matter with this guy's parents? Father at least had the sense to stay away from this show but Mom is cheerfully on camera acting beyond clueless.— Roy L. Pickering Jr. (@AuthorofPatches) March 4, 2019
I would eventually learn why there was no appearance by the fathers in documentary. Not a whole lot of happy in these stories.
#LeavingNeverland - Either MJ was a monster or these people are really f'd up for making up such horrible stories. But they make the parents look just as bad for incredible negligence as they make Michael Jackson out to be a predator. How can no anger be aimed at their parents?— Roy L. Pickering Jr. (@AuthorofPatches) March 4, 2019
Sure seems that MJ groomed particular types of families who were easiest to manipulate. Not only overwhelmed by his stardom but also hopeful to achieve their own stardom with Jackson's help. I also think MJ maintained relationships with kids, esp. famous 1's, that weren't sexual— Roy L. Pickering Jr. (@AuthorofPatches) March 4, 2019
Macaulay Culkin, Emmanuel Lewis, Corey Feldman are credible when claiming relationships w/ Michael Jackson weren't sexual because they're likely telling the truth. I used to think if MJ was into boys he'd just pay for sex trafficking. But these families basically acted like pimps— Roy L. Pickering Jr. (@AuthorofPatches) March 4, 2019
Yes there was a childlike quality to Michael Jackson,Michael Jackson is not the 1st person to have his "childhood stolen". Whether it's due to child stardom or far less glamorous reasons, there are quite a few people who missed out on traditional childhoods. Most don't compensate as adults by hanging out with kids all the time.— Roy L. Pickering Jr. (@AuthorofPatches) March 4, 2019
but to what degree was it a lure?
But you can be strange without being a pedophile. Was MJ both? I'd like to believe he wasn't but more than being a stan, I'm a realist.— Roy L. Pickering Jr. (@AuthorofPatches) March 4, 2019
One thing made clear to me from social media regarding high profile criminal cases of various natures is that people pick a side early on. Based on desired outcome they choose what evidence sways them & what to dismiss in order to to support pre-reached conclusions.— Roy L. Pickering Jr. (@AuthorofPatches) March 4, 2019
If you're sympathetic to the accuser for whatever reason, it won't matter to you that case against the accused isn't ironclad. You'll accept the accusations without requiring hard proof. The accused person's denials will fall on deaf ears.— Roy L. Pickering Jr. (@AuthorofPatches) March 4, 2019
Conversely if you're sympathetic to the person accused of wrong doing, no amount of circumstantial evidence will be enough to convince you they're guilty. You'll grasp any straw that points to possible innocence. Conspiracy theories will seem quite reasonable even if far fetched.— Roy L. Pickering Jr. (@AuthorofPatches) March 4, 2019
In the end you may never know what actually went down with 100% certainty. Your guesses/assumptions will be right some of the time and wrong some of the time. But in your mind you'll always be right and that's what counts.— Roy L. Pickering Jr. (@AuthorofPatches) March 4, 2019
Sometimes you just know something in your gut. This isn't true knowledge. It's belief. It's conviction. But it really really feels like knowing what is/isn't true. So we go with it.— Roy L. Pickering Jr. (@AuthorofPatches) March 4, 2019
The smoothest criminals are those who excel at choosing perfect victims. This keeps them from being caught/accused for a long time, & when day of reckoning finally does arrive the accusations come from flawed sources that are easy to dismiss. Powerful people are tough to topple.— Roy L. Pickering Jr. (@AuthorofPatches) March 4, 2019
I am a therapist that works with survivors. If the abuser is a loved one (I.e., parent, sibling, etc) often the loss of the relationship to the abuser is as traumatic as the abuse itself. It can take a long time for a victim to come to terms with such a loss.— J Axman (@jeffluvsmetal) March 4, 2019
Even if you take out the matter of the sexual molestation (which I believe happened) just the psychological damage MJ did to these boys by fostering a fantastical relationship with them and then coldly cutting it off is unconscionable. Their parents failed these boys as well.— J Axman (@jeffluvsmetal) March 4, 2019
I don’t know if what happened to him was at the hands of Michael Jackson, but that statement rings very true to me, as a survivor. It seems normal because it’s what you know until you mention it to someone “normal” and they are horrified :/ it’s a shitty feeling.— Jᴇɴɴɪғᴇʀ (@oyofmidmidworld) March 4, 2019
If you're not able to stomach watching the documentary (you certainly wouldn't be alone) but you are interested in this subject, I recommend reading this BuzzFeed article at minimum.
Some other stuff I found (while looking for a picture or two to accompany this post) to be taken with as large a grain of salt as you wish:
MJ and Boys; NY Post article; National Enquirer article
Some radio stations across the world are taking the allegations made against Michael Jackson in the #LeavingNeverland documentary pretty seriously.
— theGrio.com (@theGrio) March 7, 2019
His music has been pulled from several radio stations.https://t.co/16J4SaOgLU
A statue of Michael Jackson has been removed from Britain's National Football Museum in the wake of fresh allegations of sexual abuse that continue to surround the pop superstar's legacy https://t.co/CWPcy2hsQJ pic.twitter.com/GHxIjgaOmb
— CNN (@CNN) March 7, 2019
As I head back to Los Angeles, I want to thank UK media for giving me the opportunity to be a voice for my uncle Michael.
— Taj Jackson (@tajjackson3) March 7, 2019
To all the MJ fans worldwide, you have been truly amazing.
While they have stories...we have the truth.
The facts don’t lie, people do.
The useful thing about my ability to separate art from artist at least 98% of the time is I don't have to agonize when a fave turns out to be f'd up. Not that I go out of my way to financially support them, but I wage no hard core boycott either. A bop is a bop so dance on.
— Roy L. Pickering Jr. (@AuthorofPatches) March 6, 2019
Tuesday, July 7, 2009
Michael Jackson Memorial Service

One can at least hope. By far this was the saddest part of his legacy. Fame & fortune & adulation were no match for MJ's racial insecurity
MJ's racial insecurity may have led directly to his death since addiction to drugs was result of addiction to unnecessary surgeries
I've personally known 1 black person who wanted to switch races and wasn't shy about saying so. He was racist against black people. Bizarre
Ironically, had Michael Jackson been born a white person he probably would not have become the SUPERSTAR that he came to be
In terms of popularity & influence I'd put Jackson up there with Ali & Jordan & Elvis at the top of the list. Tiger Woods gaining ground. [Obviously that last sentence was written prior to Tiger's implosion]
Michael Jackson was an amazing performer who will be sorely missed. He revolutionized musical entertainment.
That was the framework of his legacy. Much of the rest was a confused mess of sexual & racial identity issues
Yet I must repeat that I will miss him and pray that his departure from this world ended his torment. And I appreciate that he longed to “heal the world” even though he couldn’t figure out how to heal himself.
This nation's struggle with racial relations and identity is what led me to write Patches of Grey in what I've coined the "pre Obama era"
Once upon a time we were treated to the trinity of James Brown, Michael Jackson & Prince. Only one of them left now.
James Brown, Michael Jackson and Prince take turns on stage on a magical day in 1983.
As a writer I'm obviously a fan of well chosen words. There are a number of wicked lyrics spread throughout the body of MJ's work
“Deep In The Darkness Of Passion's Insanity -I Felt Taken By Lust's Strange Inhumanity - This Girl Was Persuasive - This Girl I Could Not Trust - The Girl Was Bad - The Girl Was Dangerous”
“I've learned that love's not possession & I've learned that love won't wait. I've learned that love needs expression but I learned too late”
Most if not all of those who believed MJ to be guilty of child molestation stopped supporting him regardless of their race
Retweet –“ I love when some Blacks speak for all Blacks about MJ. Black Telepathy Implant?” [Agreed. Only fried chicken luv covers all]
When I say all, I mean ALL. What the heck race must you belong to not to enjoy breaded, deep fried chicken? What is there not to love?
Even as Michael Jackson was having his skin bleached, dyed, peeled, whatever, I suspect he was munching on take-out from Popeyes. [This tweet and those preceding it were written prior to Magic Johnson’s KFC anecdote]
Berry Gordy got one thing very right. Lil MJ absolutely tore up Who's Loving You. That performance gets me every time I hear it
You will not make me weep at work, Stevie Wonder. Not going to happen. Time to close my door
Will Reverend Al inspire or agitate? We'll see. Probably the former on this occasion
Yep, Rev. Al was in the zone all right. "Wasn't nothing strange about your daddy. It was strange what he had to deal with. But he dealt with it."
I wish Miles Davis could return from dead right now to play Human Nature and do it true justice. John Mayer will have to do. Talk about mountain to molehill comparison
You can tell John is thinking of his next tweet as he plays. Just joking
Nice job by Mayer. You can't mess up a gem like human Nature if at all competent. Instrumental guitar was wise choice.
It's as if Michael Jackson wrote “Gone Too Soon” for his own funeral. Pretty common thought I'm assuming. Here’s another one. Nice job of performing it by Usher
Michael wisely advised us to 1st look at the man in the mirror b4 juding others. Sadly he thought man in his mirror was too tan & wide nosed
But today is not about his faults. It's about his legacy. You were magical, Michael
The Jackson brothers were boyhood idols of mine. Listening to Marlon now it's so clear that regardless of circumstances we're all just people
Michael Jackson's daughter just killed me
Brooke Shields gave a very touching testimony to "keeping it real" on behalf of her friend
MJ was an enigma, that's 4 sure. As Rev. Sharpton pointed out, he made it cool to be black, made Americans of other races comfortable about it
He also wrote Black or White, claiming it made no difference. Yet it sure seemed that he was very aware of & uncomfortable with his own skin
Smile people http://bit.ly/10Dgdm even if you aren't on Candid Camera
According to recent tweets 85% always idolized MJ, 10% mocked him, 5% were indifferent. In real life % of mockers was easily over 50%
Nothing like dying to bring fans back into the fold. I wonder if it will work for OJ if he's shanked in prison.
I suspect that 25% of anti-Michael Jackson tweets are coming from die-hard Farrah Fawcett fans. Just playing
Ok, Land of Short Attention Span. MJ memorial is over with, what's next to obsess over & tweet about? Better plan - go hug someone you love
Saturday, June 27, 2009
One Glove-One Love: Michael Jackson tribute
